Monday, December 28, 2015

how To deal with heartbreak and still maintain poise

We all have gone through heartbreaks.i bet all of us have gone through heartbreaks and if u have gone through heartbreaks then one day you will face such kind of situation.Ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on, such as writing about your feelings, allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships. Keep in mind that getting over a breakup takes time and patience. If things don’t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support.Breakups are really difficult especially when you are emotionally attached with someone .you will find yourself in a situation in which you can stop thinking about that person.once i knew a person and i fell for him.eventually things turned out to be ugly.i am going to your agony aunt and tell you how to deal with breakups and still maintain Your poise.you can try the following things
1)try not to think about him:just accept the truth its your head that messed you up.you are temporarily off balance and your distress is due to brain chemistry.it is mistake to heed the voice inside your head that urges you to seek him out.that voice comes from fear and insecurity and isnt the best of you.engage yourself in different activities you can also try the following things:
*blogging
*meeting new people
*act like Kristen Stewart (hahahhaha u should try that coz its easy to act like her)
*make new friends
*wear John Lennon shades
* go clubbing

Get a makeover:A makeover will make  you feel hot and good it will make you feel better about yourself .Just get it right or else you will end up looking FUgly like M
iley cyrus :D ^_^

Distance yourself from him/her : IF you seek contact with him,it will not bring relief ,it only brings shame.Being  close to him is like picking of a scab and make it bleed

Deal with your anger. Feelings of anger occur when we feel we have been wronged or there has been unfair treatment. In a situation where you will not contact your ex-partner, the best way to deal with anger alone is to justchill
  • Take deep breaths and focus on allowing your muscles to relax. Soft music can often help.
Remind yourself of your ex’s negative traits. Focusing on all of the things that you don’t like about your ex can help you to get over the breakup faster. Try making a list of all of the things your ex did that you did not like. For example, maybe your ex often burped loudly after dinner, or made plans without you, or forgot your birthday. List every little thing that bothered you about your ex.
i hope you like this article and i hope it has been useful to you





Thursday, December 24, 2015

how to not care about what others think

we mostly care about what people think.we accept a status quote because everyone does the same around us.eventually our action get molded by what other think of us how do i look?do i look stupid?what are they thinking about me?are they talking  behind my back. just writing that gave me a headache.its dreadful and exhausting.if we care about what people think then we will become their prisoner.it makes a follower and a spineless spectator who take stand for nothing.pleasing people is a dreadful way to live life .today is the last day we live a life dictated by other .today we will not give a damn  about others perception.if you want to stand out then you can do the following things:
1. know yourself: it doesn't matter what others think of you.even if they think  good of you I dont think there is going to be anything different or remarkable.its absolutely essential to understand and value ourself.if u value your  principle and perception then rest will not matter.if u have ur values straight u will have your shit straight .sorry for being offensive Im not used to sugarcoating things

2.Be a straight arrow:never be afraid to tell the truth no matter how difficult it is.be like a straight arrow .always be on point.we cant please everyone.if we please everyone we will become a spineless spectator.spending your life thinking about others perception is a dreadful way to live our life.the world doesn't need one conflict avoider.

3. Nobody cares:no one really gives a damn about you.when i was young i was worried about what people would think of me now that Im old Im realized they weren't thinking about me..the truth is nobody cares.they will rate you or break you but its up to you how strong you can stay.
4.try random things:now you can try different things which are considered to be awkward or embarrassing or something which is not embarrassing like
*blogging
*getting a pixie cut
*wearing cat eye shades
*dressing like Miley Cyrus


  ahhahahha :D
 i hope you liked my article and remember be brave and dont give a shit to anyone's perception 
wid love ellie
mucha gracias
^_^